One of my friends was on the phone earlier and I could tell that she was upset about something. Eventually it came out that she had had a row with her husband. I previously knew there was a (what I thought was a small) problem but I hadn't realised it had become so serious. For obvious reasons I'm not going to mention her name and I'm not going to mention what the problem is but it's something that's very important to her but not so important to her husband.
So, to cut a long story short, there's something that she wants that would make her life much easier and much smoother - her husband doesn't see it that way and has point blank said no. No compromises, no discussion. No! (For anyone wondering, this has nothing to do with babies). They have been married for several years, have no children, both have good jobs and certainly no money issues. To a lot of people the problem may seem trivial but it means a lot to my friend and the situation between her and her husband has reached stalemate and so it turns out that last night she issued him with an ultimatum - he backs down or she moves out. She has, apparently, given him a few months in case he changes his mind but after a certain date- she's off! I'm hoping she's not serious and it will all blow over but part of me thinks she might mean it.
What I wanted to ask you all today is - do you think she's right? Is it ever right to issue your partner/spouse with an ultimatum? If you were in a similar situation, what would you do?
My advice would be to discuss it and try to find a compromise but what if the other party refuses to discuss it? What if you get two strong-willed people who both blatantly refuse to back down? Is it right for him to simply say no and expect her to just accept it but on the other hand does she have the right to force him to do something he doesn't want to do by 'threatening' him? It's a difficult one!
Looking forward to reading your responses.
Until the next time,