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The Problem with Gut Instinct

Hi everyone,

I haven't been blogging as regularly as I would like recently due to being incredibly busy with work and life in general (aren't we all??) but I just wanted to do a quick post because I'm sure this is something most of us have done in the past.

As many of you know I am a great believer in going by your gut instinct or following your intuition when there is a decision to be made. My belief is that you have already decided, subconsciously, what the outcome will be and then from that, when we follow our instinct/intuition/gut feeling we make the same decision -consciously.

For anyone who's not sure what I mean about gut instinct, it's that feeling you get in the pit of your stomach when you have to make a decision. If you think about doing something and you get a good, positive feeling, it's the right thing to do. However, if you think about it and it doesn't feel right or you have a sense of foreboding or you get that uncomfortable feeling when you know something bad is about to happen but you're not sure what, then I believe that you shouldn't go ahead with it.

So far I have always made decisions this way and I would have to say that I believe it has never let me down. I'm not saying every choice I have made has been a good choice - there have definitely been bad choices but I try to look on them positively and learn from them. I try to think 'well, if I hadn't done that then this wouldn't have happened' and so on. However - I can't help thinking that for the first time, my gut feeling has let me down.

I made a decision recently and I truly felt that at the time it was the right thing to do but now, 48 hours later, I have that uncomfortable feeling in the pit of my stomach (the one I would have hoped had been there before I made the decision) and it isn't going away. The outcome of this decision has benefited me (a little) but it meant letting a lot of other people down in the process and I now feel terrible. I feel that the guilt left by letting a group of friends down far outweighs any gains I have made and so I would like to say this. Whilst I still believe in following your intuition, you have to make sure that you take absolutely everything into account before you go ahead with your decision. In the lead up to my decision I had clearly only thought about what I would gain and this had become lodged in my subconscious. The subconscious mind is incredibly powerful and because I was only thinking about myself, as far as it was concerned I was the only one that mattered. I hadn't given any thought as to how my decision would affect other people and so my subconscious mind didn't see that part of the problem as being important. Had I thought the whole thing through properly, the feeling that I have now would have been there before I made the decision and I wouldn't have gone ahead with it. Had I used my 'Pros and Cons' list - which I didn't - the outcome would have been different I'm sure.

Anyway, I now have to live with this and I'm sure, in time, I will start to see the positives. It wasn't the wrong decision as our subconscious is never wrong; it always gives us the right solution to the set of problems that we give it however, this was definitely one of my 'bad' decisions and I will definitely learn from it.

Until the next time,

Denise x


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